Slowing My Roll

 I am trying something new.

Every time I have an overly negative thought about someone or something, I try to come up with more positive to come up with about them/it. 

I am not trying to work with toxic positivity, but to see if it changes my perceptions of the space around me. It makes sense to me that if there is such a thing as physical momentum, why wouldn't there be mental or psychological momentum?

Have you ever had one of those days that starts a little off, and then rapidly goes downhill from there? A in you start by getting toothpaste in your eye somehow, then you open the fridge door and something flies out at you. Everyone in traffic is an idiot and nothing goes your way?

I am sure we have all had one of those days, maybe not that day specifically, but something similar. I still am not sure how I got the toothpaste in my eye. 

The other day, I had a series of similar events. This time, instead of raging and everything else going wrong after the third mishap (a left lane Larry that sped up every time I tried to pass), I took a deep breath and thought that at least I wouldn't get a speeding ticket. 

It wasn't revolutionary, but it did slow down the rage monster. 

Then when I got to the school to pick up my daughter I parked close to the entrance of an alley and left room for people to easily get in and out of the alley and so I can pull away easily when it was my turn (I am a very short person who drives a very large pick up). Of course, someone decides to park in front of me, almost touching my bumper instead of parking in the empty space on the other side of the alley. 

This is one of my pet peeves, now there is no way for me to escape. Usually, I sit and silently rage, this time, I took another deep breath and thought to myself that I really had nowhere to be in a hurry. 

That also kept the rage monster at bay. 

I am sure this won't work all of the time, but it's been working so far. And I am happy about that. Negativity is contagious, and we don't need any more of that swirling around. So, I am going to keep working on this and see if it keeps up in the long run. Anything to keep me from a grippy sock vacation. 



Music Corner

I think we all have songs or singers or maybe even just their voices that calm us down when we feel like we are going to blow. One of mine is Oo-De-Lally by Roger Miller. Most famously known for being what the wandering rooster named Alan A Dale (who is voiced by Miller) musician sings in the woods sings as we are introduced to Robin Hood and Little John, the main characters of the 1973 film Robin Hood. 

The title Oo-De-Lally comes from the usage of the saying in the 1950s instead of saying yay or yippee. 

Shopping Corner


Calm The Eff Down

Soy Sauce Socks








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